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2021 Mar 06 By Halal Supply Chain 0 comment

The Concept of an Ego in Islam

Ego is a double-edged sword, it can help you attract a few fans but on the other hand, it will fill the hearts of other people who surround you with hatred. After all, no one likes someone to treat him arrogantly. An arrogant person is the one who acts as if he is superior, more worthy, and more important than the others.

Islam encourages Self Respect but orders you to not confuse it with your “Ego”:
  1. Ego is like a man that cares about his public reputation
  2. Ego is nothing more than a part of his structural model
  3. Ego is like a man that in servitude of himself
  4. Ego is like a man that worshiper of himself
  5. Ego behavior is as old as human nature
  6. Ego may claim dishonor from the world
  7. Ego leads to feelings of powerlessness
  8. Ego is an executive of the personality
  9. Ego leads to feelings of victimization
  10. Ego is about vanity and pride while 
  11. Ego is opposite the level of faith
  12. Ego feel everything they do is fine
  13. Ego like someone walking behind him
  14. Ego usually speak loudly, are stubborn
  15. Ego has problems creating relationships
  16. Humility is an asset for self-improvement
  17. Humility helps others and promotes others
  18. Humility is a construct of human behavior
  19. Humility is the cure for this natural egotism
  20. Humility grants enormous power to its owner
  21. Humility is the opposite of arrogant, rude ego
  22. Every Muslim study the life of the Prophet ﷺ 
  23. Sitting with those who are truthful in the love of Allah
  24. Having your heart softened as it is worshipping Allah
  25. Choose what Allah (SWT) prefers over what you prefer

Allah is closer to you than your own limbs and your own thoughts that run in your mind right now as you read those words. He is Nearer to you than anyone. A righteous deed is like a pearl necklace – when it breaks, all the pearls follow one. Allah says

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آَمَنُوا اذْكُرُوا اللَّهَ ذِكْرًا كَثِيرًا

“O you who have believed, remember Allah with much remembrance.” (Surah Al-Ahzab33:41)

Arrogant people never have true, honest friends who feel a genuine affection for them. They also find it difficult to demonstrate affection for others. You cannot call yourself patient until you are willing and able to bear things that you have no wish to bear. Allah says

كُتِبَ عَلَيْكُمُ الْقِتَالُ وَهُوَ كُرْهٌ لَّكُمْ وَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ وَعَسَىٰ أَن تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَّكُمْ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ

Is prescribed upon you [the] fighting while it (is) hateful to you. But perhaps [that] you dislike a thing and it (is) good for you; and perhaps [that] you love a thing and it (is) bad for you. And Allah knows while you (do) not know.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:216)

Ego is the executive of the personality and is governed by the reality principle. As long as it is governed by the reality principle, it will remain in the state where it accepts reality/realities, which is fine. When it gets deviated or turned into egotism or narcissism, it becomes worst.

The Qur’an tells us in many Ayaat that those who have Ego:
  • “… truly He likes not the proud.” (Quran, 16:23)
  • Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly.” (Al-Maida: 42)
  • “… are signs for a people who give thought.” (Quran 13:3)
  • and whatever you have of favor – it is from Allah.” (An-Nahl: 53)
  • Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him] on.” (Al-Imran: 159)
  • “and do good; indeed, Allah loves the doers of good.” (Al-Baqara: 195)
  • “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (Quran 13:28)
  • ”And do not turn your cheek [in contempt] toward people and do not walk through the earth exultantly. Indeed, Allah does not like everyone self-deluded and boastful.” (Quran, 31:18)
  • “Call on Me; I will answer your (Prayer): but those who are too arrogant to serve Me will surely find themselves in Hell – in humiliation!” (Quran 40:60)

The essence of being a Muslim is being humble. Humility is when a person does not see himself as being better or above other people because of frivolous reasons like social standing, education, citizenship, or even color. Humble people don’t lack pride in their accomplishments. Allah says

وَعِبَادُ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الَّذِينَ يَمْشُونَ عَلَى الْأَرْضِ هَوْنًا وَإِذَا خَاطَبَهُمُ الْجَاهِلُونَ قَالُوا سَلَامًا

“The servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth in humility, and when the ignorant address them, they say words of peace.” (Surah Al-Furqān 25:63)

As Muslims, we understand that humility is a great virtue. Allah has opened doors to success despite our own weakness or ignorance, not because we are more intelligent or skilled than others. We also understand that if we fail, it is only because our actions are to blame, or because we have something more to learn. May Allah fill our hearts with love for Him and may Allah accept and answer this love with what is good for us.

Credit to: The Concept of an Ego in Islam – Qamar Islam Khan